Blended Thoughts

Repost: Necessary Listening Skills

I did a deep dive Google search to get as much information about listening as I could. Out of all the articles I found, I think the one below was most relevant:

https://www.forbes.com/sites/womensmedia/2012/11/09/10-steps-to-effective-listening/#78d707138918

Enjoy!

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About Me

About Me

I started my career young

I have learnt so much since it began

It’s been 5 years and I still love to share

Mostly because of how much I care

Take what I write not as a set song

It’s great advice though, don’t get me wrong

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Work Success Open Secrets

A Normal Time Waster

  • 8 am: So I want, just like you, to recreate the world by 5pm today. I want to do exactly what I plan to; uninterrupted and efficiently. I want to solve a major problem, or at least a chunk of it to a point of satisfaction.
  • 1 pm: Okay, I shall not panic. My to-do list is untouched and I have 30 emails in my sent items list. My inbox has 15 unread emails. I’ll read all of them as I eat lunch. I’ll have plenty of time for my main tasks at 2pm.
  • 5 pm: I feel cheated by the clock. Where has my day gone? Why is it that only 1 thing got done? Why is it that my sent items list is now 60 emails long yet I feel so unfulfilled? Why is it that I can’t account for my day confidently and I feel like the absolute opposite of what I set out to feel when I woke up?
  • 6.30 pm: Stephen is late. No, no coffee, just a cold coke please. Sigh. I’m so tired. Googles, ‘how to be more effective at work’.
  • 10 pm: Tomorrow shall be different. I will wake up early and be in the office by 7 am. I’ll get more done, I promise. Presses play on ‘The Real Housewives of Atlanta Season 8, Episode 2’.
  • 12 am: Logs into Facebook.
  • 1 am:Sleeps.

OR perhaps you simply had a binge watching sort of day.

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I didn’t even factor in Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Snap Chat time!

It’s a vicious cycle. Each day we do a series of things that pushes us further away from effectiveness. Then we turn to Google.

  1. 5 things highly productive people do every morning.
  2. 10 things highly effective people do
    every day.
  3. 7 things to do to have an awesome day.
  4. 20 little things to put on your to do list.

Enough already! Surely by now you know what to do to live like an above average human being. Bloggers haven’t let you forget it! Heck you’ve subscribed to medium.com, haven’t you? So have I. Yet I know what ails you because it ails me too. Can we simply focus on being average, simple, honest and cliché phrase-free?

I am not attempting to convert a simple analogy into something fancy to impress you. I’m simply saying, let’s focus on being normal. Also, learn to forgive yourself. It is alright to have ‘lazy’ days.

Being Employed · Work Success Open Secrets

Can I Have Your Job?

If you are fortunate enough to be employed by an organization that you actually like, there is someone in that place that has a role you want and I dare say, one that you feel you could do better if you were given the chance.

Hopefully, this person (be it your immediate supervisor, a peer or even a person working in a different organization) is not making a mess of things but they are actually making their work look easy. There in lies the major challenge and opportunity. Take time to really study them. Get to know them. Don’t wait for an ‘HR Department’ type of opportunity. Ask this person direct questions like:

  • Do you have a succession plan for your roll? Tell me more about it over coffee later, perhaps?
  • You make what you do seem so interesting! What is the secret?
  • Hello, you look nice and bright today! What have you got planned? Anything I can support you with perhaps?

These are questions that will surely get you learning and noticed. Even the most reserved person can ask at least one of these. You deserve the best kind of career the world of work has to offer. Refrain from filling yourself with  defeatist thoughts. You can do it. You really really can!

All the best!

Blended Thoughts

Reboot – 59 Minutes and 9 Seconds

Saturday night I had a long telephone chat with a friend. Yes,  Ian, I’m going to talk about it.

We were talking about what is really important in life and he was giving me flack over my intention to focus on my career as opposed to taking my mother’s advice of looking for a husband (yes, my mother thinks husbands are looked for so I have been trying to make sense of that – future post ideas!).

Ian thinks careers come and go and that they end, leaving you only with your pension if you’re lucky. He thinks life is to be enjoyed by drawing inspiration from the old days  (he challenged me to research ancient Indian culture and relate it to our lifestyles today – another future post idea!).

Anyway, my thoughts are drifting. My intention is to evoke thought as to what exactly careers are. It’s been four years since mine formally began although Malcolm Gladwell has convinced me that it began when I was born (another future post idea!).

I have been living quietly. It’s time I started sharing my exhilarating adventures with you. I’m not writing for anyone else, just for you. Because I know we both have a lot riding on what ever our daily experiences are. We both really want to make it and we both really want to be happy. We have so much to learn from each other. No need to reinvent the wheel as they say.

You have Ian to thank for this! Thanks Ian for the 59 minutes and 9 seconds of laughter. You are a great friend.

Blended Thoughts

6 thinkers whose depressing ideas will make you feel better

ideas.ted.com

We are absurdly anxious about success, says popular philosopher Alain de Botton (TED Talk: Alain de Botton: A kinder, gentler philosophy of success). In his talk from 2009, he suggests that many of our modern values — like our sense of limitless possibility and upward growth — can actually lead us to stress harder about how well we’re doing. But the reverse can also be true, says de Botton. For TED, he’s put together this reading list of (mainly) pessimistic philosophers who have inspired his thinking about positivity.

1. The Complete Essays
Michel de Montaigne

“Montaigne likes to point out that philosophers don’t know everything, and that they would be a lot wiser if they laughed at themselves a little more. He also writes in a personal and often very frank way designed to shock the prudish. ‘Kings and philosophers shit, and so do ladies,’ he says. ‘Even on the highest throne in the world…

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